Hello hun, I sent you an e-mail.

I was most certainly in your spot at one time... and I think we'd have lots in common.

Support is something that is hard to look for from the right person... ussually you just end up with someone trying to talk to you, and they are barking up the wrong tree.

Please do add me, and I can give 'help' a go.

^_^ Christina-Ann

Hi
It sounds like there are a few of us in this situation. I'm always annoyed though that there is very little that I can find here in Oz.. Regardless, I am just as happy to develop online friends-in-commom, so don't hesitate to contact me.

When I first met my Daddy, he was very into the idea of it all, but it was kinda foreign to him, so he was very hesitant. I'm still not entirely content with his consistency, but he had never been in this relationship before, so he doesn't always know what to do. In the past I had always been with men who were really into it and just natural with it. My suggestion is to tell him what you would like it to be like and help him recognize moments when you need discipline. For instance, if you do something that needs correcting and he doesn't seem to pick up on it, apologize to him and say that you shouldn't have done that. It'll kind of give him cues. I know that's kinda like topping from the bottom, but it is a good help if they don't know what to do. After they get more used to it, you shouldn't need to give cues anymore. lol.

Hi kailee and apple, nice to see you girls here!
Hello everyone, I just joined and am poking around. Nice to meet you all.

For starters, we need to establish a few things... First, exploration is the key. You need to both think about what the reasons are for your wanting this type of lifestyle. My Wife and I believe that this type of setting is what will be a strengthener for our relationship. Don't scare, take it slow. We him-hawed about it for a while and sort of had a few failed attemps, but now that we have some structure as to what the discipline should and would be, we can establish a system. We have 4 levels to discipline, each of which are more severe than the other. She gets 3 wanrnings if she is repeating something that is not approved. After 3 warnings she goes up a level.

Now, with the individual levels, you have types of punishment. Each one is based on TIME and not on quantity. When you base your discipline on quantity, you know when it will end. But, if you base it on time, you will not know how many swats you will recieve.

Tools..... Let's speak rationally. I have a 3' whip, a wodden spoon, something similar to a "Loopy Johnny", and "Ol' Blackie" (My Favorite Belt.) One or all of which are used depending on the level acquired.

As an added bonus, she has a Discipline Log she writes in when she does something wrong for future references. She also has a "Diary" she wrotes in at the end of the day where she can put her thoughts, feelings, or any questions she might have about something. This diary is what we call "Free Ground" which is where anything can be discussed without risk of punishment.

There's lots more, and if you'd like more info, let me know. I'm willing to share ideas or thoughts...

There is a wonderful site called taken in hand that you might find helpful.