That's alot of questions, but I'll be glad to assist. However, this is just my perspective; I'm sure every woman is very different. Anyway, you basically answered your own question; the first one, that is. The trust factor is a must, and the "trust" mainly includes being non-judgmental, and thoughtful listening. I need to know that what I'm sharing is our secret, and that, someday, should we part, everything I've told him wouldn't be used against me. As far as "strong" or "subtle" is concerned... that depends. If a man is confident and really interested in me (and not just sex) I prefer that he comes on strong; that is very much a turn-on. But, the key is that he's interested in me. I can usually tell, but I can only speak for myself. Third question: Both is just fine with me, but, again, it depends on what we're doing... if you know what I mean. In otherwords, save the "dirty" talk for sex. Fourthly; hmm? Well, again, it depends. A man needs to have good timing, and I guess that could apply to life in general... "timing is usually everything". Names is something I really haven't given too much thought, but I guess I'd have to say depending on what we're doing would dictate the vocabulary. In general, everyday situations, I love to be called "baby". I can't explain it, but I melt everytime I hear it. However, in the bedroom, working up to whatever turns him on is fine with me. Again, "working up to" is important, because if obscenties start flying out of your mouth the first time you're together, she'll probably think you're crazy. Does this help?

the main thing that allows me to open up to a man is that he is open with me. if he is obviously closed or guarded forget it. the Man i'm with now is completely open and honest and a great communicator. it makes it easy for me to be the same.

i don't care how a man comes on as long as his desire matches mine. if it's electric then yes, strong is good. sometimes his energy is more mellow as is mine and that's fine too.

i have no preferences on how i like to be approached but if i rebuff you move on. there is something missing that is not creating a spark and that just is.

If a man calls me a pet name from the get go i don't like it. it feels like something he just calls every girl - like babe, or hun - it's very impersonal. pet names need to develop over time and fit my personality. then i love them because it is something special between the two of us.

In the past I've tended to meet dates through mutual friends, the assumption being that if this person knows people I know that I can get references for them. Also, I can see them being social and get a feel for what they're like. Frequently the person is already a friend of mine before we start dating.

Lately it's been a little different: I've met people through a combination of online profile and clubbing (i.e., my local sex positive community center), or just at kinky events. In the former case, after I'd hot-listed his profile the man who would become my Daddy stepped up, said hello and introduced himself at a play party. In the latter, the man who would become my boy bounded up to me at kinky camp-out and asked permission to worship my belly. In both cases, approaching me was relevant, respectful and done in public. The first was respectful and brief in a loud, darkened club; the second was bouncy and playful on a sunny day in the middle of a lawn. *shrug*

Confidence and even a bit of swagger are nice, but entitlement and pleading are not. I don't like being treated as though I'm the latest E-ticket attraction at the fair and that all someone has to do is pay a fee to get a ride.

I prefer that anyone who wants some of my attention ask me how I prefer to be addressed. I understand that many are on formal protocol and thus feel the need to use titles when uncertain, but the kink community I've come up through insists that such behavior can be viewed as an attempt to solidify the bounds of a relationship that hasn't even been negotiated yet. I fluctuate on what I like to be called, which is part of why I prefer people to ask me before guessing.

men lie a lot.. whether they are masters or subs... it is a man thing... they promise too much and do little... u trust a person by experience by meeting him and see how he behaves, what he says... there are always signs, just pay attention to them... be cautious at first.. and step by step build up the trust....