Becky,

what kind of humiliation and embarrassment do you use with your spankings? My Wife is not very imaginative that way.

Thanks,

Ken

I identify as a submissive and I know that for me, punishment must be very real and very unpleasant. I was with a Dominant who would use a wooden paddle on me and although it was painful, I am a masochist so the results that he was looking for were coming at a pace that was unacceptable. And humiliation is hot for me. But to abandoned, to be dismissed...now THAT was punishment. When he began to use this as my punishment, my behavior quickly improved.

Becky,

I can tell you from experience that the humiliation form of a punishment can be much worse than the physical. By far the most humiliating thing that my wife has ever done to me was to tie me and another man together, face-to-face, and naked. She then made us kiss passionately for about an hour. Any time we looked like we were not being enthusiastic enough she would use her crop on us until our efforts improved. She and her friend (wife of the other guy) thought it was just great.

This was NOT fun for me. Honestly I would rather she just commanded me to suck him. A BJ is, or can be a rather impersonal thing. But kissing is very personal. Even most professional prostitutes will do most anything for money but many draw the line at kissing on the mouth.

I can promise you that I was a very well-behaved sub for quite a while after that. I would rather have the crop on any day.

Becky, that sounds really hot!

I'm really excited that you and your husband are enjoying that sort of thing together.

Hats off to you!

Hello. I am a man interested in all about Domestic Discipline, as I have experienced it, beeing disciplined by my girlfriend.
Of course there are many reasons who can explain why a couple make an optin for a DD lifestyle, and in the case a DD relationship where the woman is the top. Personally I don't believe that in a DD relationship, humiliations can be a good add for the health of the relationship. With me would not work, and I would reject it in the moment. Sclolding and lecturing in a DD relationship are not a humiliating expeeience, on the contrary they are an important part of the process. To finish, DD is not BDSM (I'm not criticizing those who likes and live in a BDSM relationship).
A spanking, I mean a disciplinary spanking is vaery painful, in both aspects - mental and physica~, and one more important - the emotional aspect. It is because after a punishment, the one that received the punishment needs to have the so called aftercare - Know that is forgiven, loved, and so on; and of course receive attention and if need care in the area where the punishment was delivered - the bottom.
So, humiliation in a DD relationship - No Thanks!
Kind regards.
Antonio.
For those who are interested in a good site about a DD relationship where the wife is the boss: www.disciplinarywivesclub.com/abegin.htm

Hi Becky,
How nice to hear from you. We are a couple from Belgium and definitely into DD. My man is being spanked at very regular intervals. I have him spanked some times in front of friends. And when is he unable to show his full manhood I put him in the corner with plastic panties. He will then have to earn back his privileges of a man like wearing normal panties and pants. We have a female diciplinarian friend who receives men and women and he is being sent there occasionally. Have a look at her beautifull site www.retrospank.org
I would love to be in touch with you.
Regards,
DutchDDCouple

Hi Becky,
Your husband is a fortunate man to have you. Hopefully I will find someone like you in the future

I was a sub to a Domme for several months last summer. She made her husband and me both wear a locking electric dog control collar while inside their home. She even made him cut the grass while wearing a rubber mask of a pig, and olny an apron on! let me tell you the collar gets your attention quickly!

They own a small farm so we were out in the country, but she humiliated him a lot. He had to cook nude with only the rubber apron . He wore a CB 2000 all of the time, and had to keep his body shaved clean, including his eyebrows. I shaved him often. He ate only from a dog dish at her feet, right next to mine! I slept in Mistresses bed while her husband slept in the closet cage, often while we had sex. Mistress allowed me to spank him and made him service me with his tongue. During the entire summer I think she only allowed him to cum about once a month. I did not like the pee thing so I left after that summer.

Becky -

I'm in Ohio and would love to chat sometime.

Selena

Your husband is lucky to have you in-house . Let me first introduce myself .I am from India and where bdsm life style is social taboo. I am a very well established professional . I am masochist gay male and would love to enjoy this life style when at home . However as a head of the organization I am very much focused on my professional responsibilities and cannot go beyond certain limits. Despite extensive search on the net I have tough time to get a suitable match for female disciplinarian. I would live to have a professional strict female disciplinarian & willing to offer all the possible assistance for relocation.

Hi, Becky,

Have you visited the www.DisciplinaryWivesClub.com site? It is excellent. We have also met "Aunt Kay" the founder, and her husband.

By the way, how frequently do you spank your husband and what other types of punishments are used.

Thanks & Spanks,

Dan & Joy