Becky,

what kind of humiliation and embarrassment do you use with your spankings? My Wife is not very imaginative that way.

Thanks,

Ken

I identify as a submissive and I know that for me, punishment must be very real and very unpleasant. I was with a Dominant who would use a wooden paddle on me and although it was painful, I am a masochist so the results that he was looking for were coming at a pace that was unacceptable. And humiliation is hot for me. But to abandoned, to be dismissed...now THAT was punishment. When he began to use this as my punishment, my behavior quickly improved.

Becky,

I can tell you from experience that the humiliation form of a punishment can be much worse than the physical. By far the most humiliating thing that my wife has ever done to me was to tie me and another man together, face-to-face, and naked. She then made us kiss passionately for about an hour. Any time we looked like we were not being enthusiastic enough she would use her crop on us until our efforts improved. She and her friend (wife of the other guy) thought it was just great.

This was NOT fun for me. Honestly I would rather she just commanded me to suck him. A BJ is, or can be a rather impersonal thing. But kissing is very personal. Even most professional prostitutes will do most anything for money but many draw the line at kissing on the mouth.

I can promise you that I was a very well-behaved sub for quite a while after that. I would rather have the crop on any day.

Becky, that sounds really hot!

I'm really excited that you and your husband are enjoying that sort of thing together.

Hats off to you!

Hello. I am a man interested in all about Domestic Discipline, as I have experienced it, beeing disciplined by my girlfriend.
Of course there are many reasons who can explain why a couple make an optin for a DD lifestyle, and in the case a DD relationship where the woman is the top. Personally I don't believe that in a DD relationship, humiliations can be a good add for the health of the relationship. With me would not work, and I would reject it in the moment. Sclolding and lecturing in a DD relationship are not a humiliating expeeience, on the contrary they are an important part of the process. To finish, DD is not BDSM (I'm not criticizing those who likes and live in a BDSM relationship).
A spanking, I mean a disciplinary spanking is vaery painful, in both aspects - mental and physica~, and one more important - the emotional aspect. It is because after a punishment, the one that received the punishment needs to have the so called aftercare - Know that is forgiven, loved, and so on; and of course receive attention and if need care in the area where the punishment was delivered - the bottom.
So, humiliation in a DD relationship - No Thanks!
Kind regards.
Antonio.
For those who are interested in a good site about a DD relationship where the wife is the boss: www.disciplinarywivesclub.com/abegin.htm

Hi Becky,
How nice to hear from you. We are a couple from Belgium and definitely into DD. My man is being spanked at very regular intervals. I have him spanked some times in front of friends. And when is he unable to show his full manhood I put him in the corner with plastic panties. He will then have to earn back his privileges of a man like wearing normal panties and pants. We have a female diciplinarian friend who receives men and women and he is being sent there occasionally. Have a look at her beautifull site www.retrospank.org
I would love to be in touch with you.
Regards,
DutchDDCouple

Hi Becky,
Your husband is a fortunate man to have you. Hopefully I will find someone like you in the future

I was a sub to a Domme for several months last summer. She made her husband and me both wear a locking electric dog control collar while inside their home. She even made him cut the grass while wearing a rubber mask of a pig, and olny an apron on! let me tell you the collar gets your attention quickly!

They own a small farm so we were out in the country, but she humiliated him a lot. He had to cook nude with only the rubber apron . He wore a CB 2000 all of the time, and had to keep his body shaved clean, including his eyebrows. I shaved him often. He ate only from a dog dish at her feet, right next to mine! I slept in Mistresses bed while her husband slept in the closet cage, often while we had sex. Mistress allowed me to spank him and made him service me with his tongue. During the entire summer I think she only allowed him to cum about once a month. I did not like the pee thing so I left after that summer.

Becky -

I'm in Ohio and would love to chat sometime.

Selena

Your husband is lucky to have you in-house . Let me first introduce myself .I am from India and where bdsm life style is social taboo. I am a very well established professional . I am masochist gay male and would love to enjoy this life style when at home . However as a head of the organization I am very much focused on my professional responsibilities and cannot go beyond certain limits. Despite extensive search on the net I have tough time to get a suitable match for female disciplinarian. I would live to have a professional strict female disciplinarian & willing to offer all the possible assistance for relocation.

Hi, Becky,

Have you visited the www.DisciplinaryWivesClub.com site? It is excellent. We have also met "Aunt Kay" the founder, and her husband.

By the way, how frequently do you spank your husband and what other types of punishments are used.

Thanks & Spanks,

Dan & Joy

Hello Becky.

I have had long time interest in domestic discipline that dates way back to my teenage years, I use to spank each and everyone of the boyfriends I had. Those that would not submit it a spanking or otherwise refused could hit the road. So out of the dozens of boyfriends I could have had, I only had 2 that measured up to my standards. One of which I later married. He walked me down to the alter only after I really give him the spanking of his life just hours before. I wanted to be very sure that he will submit to a new life with me. I will chime in and say that making a punishment embarrassing and humiliating is the key to a well laid out punishment. And his are just that! They are highly structured and planed out well before I utter those famous words ( your getting a licking, now get changed for it ).

It was in the second year of our marriage that I got sick of the pants dropping ritual that came with his disciplining, so I decided ramp it up in the embarrassment and humiliation department. So one day I presented my husband with a uniform, a school girls uniform! A full uniform from head to toe, shoes and all. And before some of you think this is some sexual game, let me assure its not. As a veteran of a very strict school for girls that I attended, I was no stranger to the strap. And our uniform with the pleated skirts that came to our knees or just slightly above the knees, made then modest, but highly functional and effective when you earned a visit with the strap. In place of fighting with pants, the skirt was out of the way in one easy flip with no fuss or muss and the strap did its job it does so very well. Then after the skirt drops back into place showing no outward signs that he just got your butt wall tanned. Other then the obvious signs like having red eyes or being tearful and very quite for sometime after. These visits with the strap were two fold, you were there to get it for what you earned it for in the first place. Second was a uniform inspection on the spot, and if you were not neat and clean and shoes with a shine and so on, then you got extras for that all at the same time. So you always wanted to look your best when you were sent for that visit. All this had a very positive and good outcome in my life for the better, so I decided that my husband should be exposed to this method and the easy flip of a skirt to get down to task at hand. And at the same time it added a great element, the element of shame, humiliation and embarrassment to all his punishments. In closing I just wish to say that he takes better care of that uniform then I ever did when I was in school and he all ways looks his very best in it from head to toe. And the shine of those shoes is something to behold. I only once had to whip him for a dirty and wrinkled uniform, and I whipped him far worse then the reason for the punishment in the first place. Since that day he looks after it very well. Its been 8 years with the same uniform and it still looks near new as do his shoes. His punishments come with house work as well, while dressed in uniform for a few hours. The only say he has in his punishments is, will it be the spanking first, then the house work. Or would you like to get the house work chores out of the way first. And that is only say he has. Sometimes it comes with the writing of lines as well to give it good well rounded feel to the punishment ritual.

I did not want to make my last posting to long. As for the emotional part. My husband has on a number of occasions burst into full tears and even light crying from my strappings. I do not use the strap all that hard, but I make each and everyone of them good solid stinger just the same. I believe in letting the strap take its time to teach then lesson that needs to be learned, so I tend to give many swats and let the learning be a slow one. Hast makes waste, and I feel that very hard swats just make a punishment to short as the end result if reached fast to quickly. The standard number, and I do not assign a set number. I let the strap do its job and when it has then it ends and not until then. But the standard number he gets seems to be in the 50 to 80 range by the time I see the true deep down emotions that tell me that it has reached him and had been a good learning experience for him. I could get there in 25 to 30 swats, but that is not learning. That is just a great deal of pain. Learning coming slow and has to take its own sweet time, and it takes time to let ones emotions out freely and not forced out before they are ready to come out on there own.

I am proud practitioner of loving home domestic discipline. And as shameful as it may feel to him and embarrassing as well as humiliating for him. It’s a very important part and maybe more so then the just the licking its self. But when combined in the right measure the results are something to behold and is a thing of beauty. And just so you all know, my husband picks a time when I am not around to wash and iron his uniform as well as polish the uniform shoes that he most wear with them. He knows what will happen if they are not well kept. So as to not bring undo shame and embarrassment to him, when I know he cleaning his uniform or looking after its needs, I make it a point to give him some alone time so that he may do so in privet. It’s a good arrangement for both of us this way. The spin off’s are. He looks so darn cute in it that I have at times a hard time to take the strap to him, but I know it must be done and I do not back down on my wifely duties to do so.

My wife and I are in a fendom relationship, and have been for many years now. My wife decides all of my punishment. The intensity depends on my infraction of house rules. Our DD relationship is 24/7. Being controlled and punished keeps our marriage strong. She has had other women friends punish me as well, and sometimes punished me in front of them. My wife has a large supply of spanking and punishment implements, which she uses generously on me. When being punished I am told what a low life I am, and that I am not good enough for her. She uses words like slut, whore. I am also abused with a strapon, which please her very much.

Anthony

I would also really ejoy guidance in regards to more of the tricks to making sure that my husband really learns from the punishments that I give to him. as far as embarassment that I use with him I have to admit that he is a very lucky guy in the sense that his only consists of being put over my knee for the punishments and corner time. One that gets him is being put in the "diaper" position and being left like that.
We are pretty new to the world of LDD so any guidance that anyone wants to send my way would be taken with much appreciation....

On my 5oth b'day my wife (6'2" 190 lbs.) had me (5'10" 165 lbs.) over her knee for my b'day spanking when I walked her mom (6'3" 225 lbs.). After the initial shock she started to laugh and said that this was a whole different side of me that she hadn't seen before and wanted a turn to wish me a happy birthday as well. When my wife was done it was over my mother-in-laws knee I went. I was the hardest most humiliating spanking I ever had. Here I was a mature 50 year old man over the knee of a 75 year old woman who was able to spank me to tears with just her bare hand and there wasn't a thing I could do to stop either woman. When she let me up my wife sat me on her lap to sooth me and started to kiss me when her mom said that I must have liked it as she looked at my crotch. My wife looked to then said what a naughty little boy you are and leaned down to suck on and bite my nipple which made me even bigger. She then reached down and stroked me she then looked me in the eye and said that it looks like it's time to blow the candle out. NO NO NOOOO not with your mom here she laughed and with that she laid me flat as she swallowed me down. NO NO NO STOOOOPPP !!!! She then took her mouth off of me and said as you wish then grabbed me and started stroking me faster and faster until I couldn't hold back any longer and hit her shoulder as her mom cheered us on then let herself out.