In an effort to contribute, though i have editing to do (yes, yes, i can be a slacker too), I'll try and answer all points and be consise. Like concentrated detergent.

Y'all have to add the water.

"What attracts you to the construct of a DD relationship?"

Safety. I feel like i have a measure of power in my own home. Even if i am serving, my sense of house-pride keeps me afloat enough to 'know myself' and thus free myself to enjoy whatever is inflicted.

" Why are you involved, or seeking to be involved, in this type of dynamic?"

I can only fall back on those things i am good at to please people. Since no one has yet hired me to be their personal, eager-beaver librarian that only leaves cleaning and most things related to running a household in order to please people. And thus displease people---play-displeasing people of course, who would then punish or discipline.


" How does it make you feel about yourself?"

Most times i feel accomplished (as concerns anything completed for the sake of the household) and also makes me more....geez what word would be ok to use that they won't censor?...uh...makes me sloppy in the right places.

"... your partner"

i could not possibly answer, though i hope for the best.

Happy New Year,
iris

Actually I counted four questions. 1) Power. 2) Explore. 3) Erotic. 4) Submissive.

Hello, I'm new here, but for me, when it works, it's closer and more intimate than any relationship I've ever been in, including my past marriage. There's a feeling of safety, for me, when I'm with someone who absolutely has a stronger will than mine and isn't afraid to impose it (and isn't afraid of me!). Initially, it's kind of scary, but because I tend to be emotional and kind of volatile and very used to having my way all the time; but because within a DD context there are limits on those behaviors, I'm happier and more secure, despite what I believed my entire life about relationships. About my partner? Well, when I'm that taken care of, and given that much attention, there's no other response than to adore that person and take as much care of him.