My husband and I have been married for 21 years now. We did not start out DD. Wish we would have, that sure would have saved some hurt feelings through the years. We did start to explore DD some 7 -8 years ago I think, it was my request and it took me a while to tell him what I wanted. Even longer for us to explore it and decide what worked for us and what didn't. It was on again off again for a little while and it was made more difficult by his having to leave for extended periods of time with the military.
We finally got it right. Things were going great we were clicking like never before, our home was the happiest it had ever been(2) kids.
He had to leave for over a year. It all went in the toilet so to speak.
We both were so different when he came home. Still just as much in love but had changed in so many ways and our life with the military was changing tremendously at the time, so did our family. His mother moved in when we got back to the states. BIG MISTAKE.

Now its almost three years since we moved back and we have traveled some very bumby roads to say the least.
I have not been me in a long time, He hasnt seemed his self either. We talked finally thank the heavens. We are making our move back to DD where we belong.
He admits to missing the intamacy we had. The sharing we did. The bond.
I have felt so ungrounded, kind of like just going through the daily motions with no emotions. Like just hanging out on a limb.

This wont be easy by any means even though its something we both want and need. We have changed over time. Maybe not all for the best so we both have some habbits to break for each other and our selves.
So now comes the the hard part, for me anyway. Letting go of the control, putting my pride some place other than between He and I. Letting him love me again. Letting my self love me again. Taking down some of the walls I put up and feeling again.

Well now thats enough for now but hope that We will be able to share much more together as time goes.

Sheryl